Tip for overcoming self-consciousness

When someone is self-conscious, they are very much focused on themselves and how they think they are coming across to others.

One possible tip for a method to stop worrying so much about how you’re coming across is this:

Occupy your mind with this thought:

“Whatever happens, I’m going to do my best to make the person I’m talking with feel accepted and loved.”

By shifting your focus from yourself, to the other person, you stop worrying so much about how you LOOK, and allow yourself to BE the kindest version of yourself. Your aim is now not to obssess about “appearing” to look like a nice person, but to BE kind and BE nice so that the other person feels good.

When other people feel good, accepted and loved in your presence, do you think they’ll remember that your shirt wasn’t ironed or some other trivial thing you may be self-conscious about? Or do you think they’ll remember “Hey, it felt so nice talking with that person – they were so nice! I really enjoyed chatting with them!”?


What motivates you?

what motivates you?
A few ideas…

– The feeling of making a difference and doing something that helps people or that helps make the world a little better of a place.
eg teaching people, improving awareness about a cause, about personal empowerment, about health etc.
eg painting pretty designs that will make the environment nicer-feeling and will be uplifting.
eg inventing a new innovation that helps the world in some way

– Meeting set targets: Taking on challenges that are interesting and stimulating and seeing them through to the end so you feel like “YES! I did it!”. It gives a sense of accomplishment when you can look back and say “I achieved that”. When you have targets you have a feeling of knowing exactly what you’re doing and where you’re going – that feeling of clarity feels so good. It often feels better to be challenged than to be in a situation where you feel unchallenged, bored, frustrated and stagnant. Challenges help us expand and grow in our skill levels.

– Visible results
eg seeing the bonus pay / commission reward come in from a job well done.
eg training / teaching someone something and seeing them then apply it for themselves.
eg seeing the view count or like count on a video you made, seeing that X number of people saw it or liked it
eg seeing a product you made / designed, being in stores and receiving positive reviews.
eg getting an award of “best in their field”.

– The buzz of working with others to build something greater than any of us could alone.

– The buzz you get when you feel like you’ve solved a problem.

– The feeling of personal growth and expansion.

– Feeling like you’re utilizing your talents to their fullest potential – being your best self.


Why love feels so good – Abraham Hicks quote

I love to love because I love to tune into “that which I am” – which is love. – Abraham

Bashar on the importance of exercise & movement

Exercise and movement will be representative of being active, being energetic and of flowing energy. Lack of movement results in stagnant energy that’s waiting to move.

You put on weight because you are doing too much “waiting” to move, physically and often also metaphorically. You may be “waiting” to do something in life that you’re not allowing yourself to do.

Source: paraphrased from Bashar – Achieving perfect health https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yhhEi8aIt3Q


Excitement is a way of being. A way of being YOU. It is within you. It is your state. It is part of you. It is what you are.

The excitement is not in external things. It is not ABOUT something / external things. It is something that was always within you.
In other words: Excitement is not in things. Things are in excitement.

And when you’re simply willing to be excited for no reason, then it won’t have to be about someTHING, and then you could be excited all the time because there is no reason not to be.

When you realise this, then your excitement will know no bounds and no end, and everything will fall into your excitment.

– Bashar (paraphrased from here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nK4o51RMel8 )

Dawn French on how to do things even if you dont feel quite ready to do them yet

“My theory was that if I behaved like a confident, cheerful person, eventually I would buy it myself and become that. This method worked. I tell myself that I am the sort of person who can open a one-man play in the West End, so I do. I am the sort of person who has several companies, so I do. I am the sort of person who writes a book, so I do. It’s a process of having faith in the self you don’t quite know you are yet. Believing that you will find the strength, the means somehow and trusting in that, although your legs are like jelly. You can still walk on them and you will find the bones as you walk. The further you walk the stronger you become.”

– From Dawn French’s autobiography “Dear Fatty”

Jonathan Ross on the best moments in life

Paraphrased from Jonathan Ross’s book: Why do I say these things:

People often ask “What makes a man a success?” but perhaps a better question to ask for when you are lying on your deathbed is: “What moments from your life do you remember most fondly?”

1.) For me (Jonathan Ross), it’s not the time I met the Queen or had dinner with David Bowie, in spite those being lovely experiences. It has nothing to do with fame or even family. No, it is the moment I discovered I could do a forward roll. I find myself thinking of it and smiling probably once a week even though it was decades ago. You see, I had already harboured great ambitions to be a superhero and this seemed to me a very necessary and valuable first step in that direction. Sometimes I try to replicate that moment today. I often throw myself on the bed in a peculiar way which my wife has learned to ignore.

2.) Jumping on and off a moving old London Routemaster bus – getting the judgement of speed etc just right.


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