Discoveries & Application

Medical Discoveries: The way I see it, there are 2 main ways that new discoveries are made:

  1. Accidentally: This is the case where you’re ill with disease X and one day for some reason have one too many of food Y and discover you feel a lot better, and then think "Ooh – I wonder if food Y has something in it to help anyone with disease X" – and then test to see if the discovery applies when repeated, and try find what it is in food Y that helped.
  2. Purposefully: Start with a hypothesis that food Y treats disease X because food Y has this and that component which works on this or that system in the body by known mechanisms – and then prove it

Is one method better than the other? Well it’s a good idea to understand the concept/ hypothesis behind a discovery to allow you to moniter more safely what something does to the body. The problem with accidental discoveries is that sometimes it’s hard to understand the logic behind how it works… and then you end up with things which seem to work based on a lot of anecdotal evidence (and maybe even some scientific evidence), yet despite years of research we still don’t really understand how it works physiologically. The question is, should you use something that can potentially help even though no-one fully understands how it works? If it doesnt seem to do harm, then why not – but we don’t know if it can do harm because we dont understand how it works! Seems a bit of a grey area to me.. I don’t know what the right decision is.

Connecting….

Are there certain essential qualities needed in order to connect with someone on the deepest level?
Here’s my 2 cents on what I think is required in order to truly connect deeply and truly (this applies to any sort of relationship I think, from family to friends to lovers):

  1. Awareness and sensitivity to understand one another. Listen to each other because you care and want to, and because they are that important to you that you want to ensure their happiness.
  2. True whole and mutual acceptance of each other. There may be judgement but there is acceptance no matter what the judgemenet is.
  3. Some common basic life principles and values are essential to allow you to relate and to understand one another
  4. Truth and honesty (leaving room for tact too though)
  5. Being able to express your thoughts and feelings openly and completely without holding back (again leaving room for tact and appropriateness where applicable)
  6. Love: The feeling that allows you to whole-heartedly care, be interested, be sympathetic, compassionate and loving.

Chemistry is…

When a person feels chemistry with another person, they’re feeling an experience that is subjective to them. It’s an energetic thing which may expess itself as tingling, heat or any other sensation particular to that individual. Everyone can feel it differently. And the exact factors (whether it be certain words, certain breathing, certain energy flows) that trigger these feelings remain outside conscious awareness. Most people are just aware of the end result – and so they call it the vague blanket term: chemistry.

According to pick-up artists though, that feeling of chemistry can be triggered if you just know how to set it off….. In fact, pick-up coaches insist that anyone can *make* a person feel chemistry if they use the right steps. And of course since everyone has different "right steps" the pick-up artist has to be an amazing reader of people to sense what their triggers are.. and then to use them to their own advantage.

If that’s true, and all chemistry is, is a set of person-specific triggers, I guess when two non-coached people feel a chemistry, they feel it because they just happen to set off each others triggers without really thinking about it too much… maybe their triggers are similar making it easier to set each other off.

What friendships are all about….

Cue Garfield song:

Friends Are There
 To Help You Get Started,
To Give You A Push On Your Way.
Friends Are There
To Turn You Around,
Get Your Feet On The Ground For A Brand New Day
They’ll Pick You Up When You’re Down
Help You Swallow Your Pride
When Something Inside’s
Got To Break On Through To The Other Side
Friends Are Someone You Can Open Up To
When You Feel Like You’re Ready To Flip
When You Got The World On Your Shoulders,
Friends Are There To Give You A Tip
Friends Are There  When You Need Them,
They’re Even There When You Don’t
For A Walk In The Park, For A Shot In The Dark
Friends Are There.
[Garfield:] "I Don’t Care"
But Friends Will Care
For You-u-u-u-u-u-u!


Or more seriously, here are some more ideas collected by Leil Lowndes about what possible qualities the best friendships are all about……

·      
Friends make our days more
pleasant:

John Lubbock said, “A friend is like a
sunny day spreading brightness all around.”

·       
Friends help you make sense of
your thoughts:

“A friend is one to whom one
may pour out all the contents of one’s heart, chaff and grain together, knowing
that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping
and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away,” says an Arabian proverb.

·       
Friends won’t judge you:
Mother Teresa believed “If you judge people,
you have no time to love them.”

·       
Friends are there through conversation or silence:
Friends give the gift they
give you is comfortable silence, the contentment to be with them when you don’t
feel like talking.
“When the silences are no longer awkward, you know you are
around friends” is a proverb.

·       
Friends are there even when they’d sometimes rather be somwhere else

·       
Friends motivate you and believe
in you:

They help to keep you on track with your dreams when you falter, or believe in you when
you’ve ceased to believe in yourself.
“A friend is someone who knows the song
in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.”

·       
Friends make life interesting by sharing otherwise never-heard of/ never-seen knowledge and experiences
Anaïs Nin wrote, “Each friend
represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it
is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”

·       
Friends help us understand ourselves:
George Herbert’s expression, “The best
mirror is an old friend.”

·       
Friends help you grow:
Henry Ford maintained, “My best friend is the one who
brings out the best in me.”



Seeking understanding…

Understanding how something works makes living with it easier, adds appreciation and enriches your experience of it as a whole.
Ignorance and lack of understanding promote fear, superstition, criticism and other potential negative emotions.

Confidence

It’s interesting thinking about what makes someone confident… Sometimes outward appearances of confidence or of lack of confidence can be deceiving. Personally, I think that true confidence on the most honest and deep level is rare.

"Confidence is directly proportional to the degree you will experience a rewarding and fulfilling life"

Where does confidence come from?
Confidence comes from believing in yourself, and knowing that you are a worthy human being.
Confidence is being secure in your abilities and talents without having to rely on external praise and confirmations from others.
It allows you to feel at ease with youself, and as if by magic this makes people around you also feel at ease.

Deceptive appearances of confidence:

  • Competence: A person who seems to be good at something is not necessarily confident about their ability. On the flip-side, some people have confidence without competence which is also not ideal. It would be scary having a confident but incompetent surgeon operating on someone for example.
  • Cockiness/ Arrogance: A confident person need not proclaim how wonderful they are to the world because they are secure enough to know their self-worth without having the need to show off about it.
  • Bullying: If a person bullies people and tramples over them, it does not mean they are confident. True confidence generates positive feelings in others, not negative ones.

Is Fear the Root of all Negative Emotions?

Jealousy:  We are afraid that we will lose the source of our love
Envy:       We are afraid we’ll never be able to have something
Anger:     We’re afraid that someone’s ruined our chances of doing something
Greed:     We’re afraid that there won’t be enough of something to go around – afraid we’ll be lacking
Self-pity:  We’re afraid we’ll never be happy

If Fear is the root of so many negative emotions, by addressing Fear can we eliminate loads of negative emotions?

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