Fear Break down

Fear can be broken down into 3 levels:

Level 1:
This level shows what the fear seems to be at the superficial, surface, obvious level.
These fears can be divided into 2 types:

a.) Fear of things that happen to you (little/ no control)

  • Ageing
  • Becoming disabled
  • Retirement
  • Being alone
  • Children leaving home
  • Natural disasters
  • Loss of financial security
  • Change
  • Dying
  • War Illness
  • Losing a loved one
  • Accidents
  • Rape

b.) Fear of things requiring action on your part (you have control)

  • Making decisions
  • Deciding to go back to school
  • Changing career
  • Making friends
  • Beginning or ending a relationship
  • Using the telephone
  • Asserting yourself
  • Losing weight
  • Being interviewed
  • Driving
  • Extreme sports
  • Public speaking
  • Making a mistake
  • Intimacy

Level 2:
This is a slightly less superficial level of fear. It shows how many level 1 fears are linked to ego and are linked with inner states of mind. They reflect your sense of self.

Such ego-driven fears include:

  • Rejection (eg fear of making friends, beginning relationships, fear of intimacy, fear of a job interview etc)
  • Success/ Failure (eg fear of changing jobs, starting to study at school again etc)
  • Being vulnerable (eg fear of accidents, natural disasters, becoming disabled, ageing etc)
  • Being conned (eg fear of crime)
  • Helplessness (eg fear of losing a loved one, accidents, rape, loss of financial security)
  • Disapproval (eg fear of public speaking, making a mistake)
  • Loss of image (eg fear of making a mistake etc)

Level 3:
Level 3 gets down to the core issue of fear: All fears boil down to one fear:
The fear that you can’t handle *that* situation which life may bring.
eg Fear of rejection: "I can’t handle rejection"
eg Fear of illness "I can’t handle being ill.."
eg Fear of making a fool of yourself "I can’t handle making a fool of myself"
eg Fear of failure: "I can’t handle failure"
etc etc

Source: Feel the Fear and do it anyway. Susan Jeffers

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